This is your invitation
This is your invitation.
To dream.
To believe.
To grow.
Because all the magic lives in you
dreaming, believing, and growing.
keep growing.
AN INTERESTING LINK
When you think of keeping a journal, I’m sure the first thing that comes to mind is the traditional “Dear Diary” format, but there are so many ways to keep a journal.
Here are 6 interesting ways to journal
SHOPPING LIST
I’m in love with building tiny rituals. Before I sit down to journal, I light a candle. Right now, this is my favorite scent.
SOMETHING TO LISTEN TO
I enjoyed this podcast episode on the difference between certainty and clarity.
SOMETHING TO DO
As a part of My Reset Year, I’m currently building out a list of 52 mini challenges to find your inner spark and cultivate the change you need. Here’s a sneak peek:
Host a two hour cocktail party. Hosting a small party at your home can be a great way to socialize and turn acquaintances into friends. Keep it simple with delicious drinks and meaningful conversation. And stick to the two hour rule. It’s long enough to make a connection, but not so long that you feel overwhelmed from hosting.
I am Enough
In your most challenging moments, it’s easy to fall back into old patterns.
But these mantras will help you navigate change and uncertainty.
AN INTERESTING LINK
Self-care is not selfish…it is necessary.
Here are some quick reasons why
SHOPPING LIST
One of my favorite ways to relieve anxiety and practice self care is to take a long hot shower. Over Christmas, my mom introduced me to shower steamers and now I’m obsessed. Adding aromatherapy to my shower experience is an incredible way to disconnect from my troubles and reset my mood.
SOMETHING TO READ
My Year of Rest and Relaxation by Ottessa Moshfegh is a dark, sometimes hilarious, but incredibly gripping novel about a woman that decides to hibernate for a year with the help of illegal prescription drugs. While I love inspiring books, I also love a good read that allows me to see varying points of view. I really enjoyed this book.
SOMETHING TO DO
As a part of My Reset Year, I’m currently building out a list of 52 mini challenges to find your inner spark and cultivate the change you need. Here’s a sneak peek related to rest and relaxation:
Host yours own mini retreat. Some people go on retreats to take a break from the demands of daily life and relax in a peaceful setting. Others go on retreats to reflect or learn new skills. Retreats can be a great way to step back from the hustle and bustle of everyday life and take time to focus on yourself and your personal growth.
All you need to do is to book a hotel stay for a long weekend and allow yourself to disconnect. Then plan simple activities like journaling, creating, reading, and reflecting to achieve your desired outcomes.
PS.
I just returned to Austin from a glorious trip to New Orleans.
I was officially there to attend a baby shower and reconnect with old friends. But the trip was transformational.
I’d been searching for clarity… on what’s next and who I aim to be after finishing The Reset Workbook, scheduled to debut in December 2023 with Penguin Random House.
While I was there, I found clarity in an unexpected way.
I’m already doing what I want to do.
Reading, writing, creating, coaching, marketing, designing.
That’s who I am at my core: a man of many slashes.
So allow me to reintroduce myself.
My name is Justin Shiels and I’m a Creative Consultant / Coach / Illustrator / Author / Speaker
I would be honored to work with likeminded businesses and people to solve complex problems in interesting ways.
If you’re interested in connecting, you can always replay to this email to start the conversation.
How to feel more connected
The older I get, the more I value genuine connections.
The type of connections that are willing to listen to you vent.
Not afraid to disagree sometimes.
And willing to call you out when you’re out of line.
Those are the relationships that are worth cultivating.
Meaningful friendships that can weather storms together.
AN INTERESTING LINK
Here’s how to make friends as an adult.
Making friends as an adult is not impossible. It just requires a bit more effort and strategy than it did back in your elementary school days.
This article outlines 7 tips to help you navigate the sometimes-rocky waters of adult friendship.
SHOPPING LIST
Sometimes the best way to build a meaningful connection is to get a little nosy. Actually Curious is the conversation card game that helps you build trust and empathy.
SOMETHING TO READ
If fear is stopping you from having (or doing) what you want most—starting a podcast, taking an epic trip, writing a book, applying for a scholarship, or even trying a new workout class-it’s time to go for it.
Creator-educator Monique Malcolm’s latest book Don’t Let Fear Have All The Fun is your practical guide to quieting those fears and getting yourself moving
SOMETHING TO DO
As a part of My Reset Year, I’m currently building out a list of 52 mini challenges to find your inner spark and cultivate the change you need. Here’s a sneak peek related to connection:
Reach out to someone you genuinely care about and miss. Share your favorite memory with them.
IN CASE YOU MISSED IT
How to Love
When you can, spread joy and laughter.
When you can’t, be a witness…to their pain, their sadness, their hurt.
Sometimes the most meaningful way to show someone you love them is to sit with them and just listen.
Avoid burnout with these 5 useful tips
We all know that wasted, poured-out feeling: You look at the brown puddle in the bottom of your coffee mug and think to yourself, That’s me. That’s how I feel right now, and you wonder how long you’ve been coasting along the edge of your endurance. We all know how burnout feels, and we’re aware that it can have damaging, long lasting effects on the mind and body—but how do we avoid burnout?
In medical terms, burnout refers to feelings of mental, physical, and emotional exhaustion. Left unchecked, prolonged periods of stress, feelings of being overwhelmed or swallowed in work and other responsibilities, and the inability to meet the constant demands of life can fester, resulting in a basic inability to function.
Burnout is more profound, even more serious than it seems on the surface. It can negatively affect physical and mental health in a myriad ways, from fatigue, depression, and irritability to increased likelihood of developing heart disease, to high blood pressure, and mental health conditions that require medication–and it doesn’t stop there. Burnout can create pernicious social, personal, and professional consequences like the inability to “show up” for friends or meet personal and professional responsibilities.
Current research suggests that the average worker will experience career-related burnout by the age of 32, for reasons most often relating to overwork, lack of control, reward, community, fairness, and the affirmation of personal values.
For this post, we’ve gathered five tips to help avoid burnout and better manage stress.
1. The best way to avoid burnout is to keep it from happening in the first place.
Understanding the root causes of burnout and how it develops can save us the slow, painstaking process of recovery. Most often, burnout results from overextending, pushing yourself to work harder and harder as you neglect your own needs.
Knowing exactly what your professional responsibilities entail can give you the clarity you need to set clear boundaries and avoid working overtime on unnecessary tasks.
Taking breaks throughout the day can also help create healthy work-life boundaries and prevent exhaustion. When you find yourself getting tired, distracted, and needing a quick break, take a few moments to stand up and stretch or do a mini-meditation. When you need longer breaks (and you will), be sure to use vacation time to rest and reset.
2. Practice Mindfulness
A growing body of evidence shows how mindfulness can help prevent burnout: Mindfulness practices reduce stress and promote more positive emotions, improving self-compassion, allowing better self-care, and alleviating empathy- or compassion-fatigue.
Practice mindfulness by focusing your attention on the inflow and outflow of your breath and being aware of your emotions and how they connect to your senses and sensations in the moment. Meditation and yoga can also help you connect with yourself and process your thoughts and feelings without letting them overwhelm you.
3. Seek Support
The Swedish study mentioned above found mindfulness to be an effective counter for burnout, and the research discovered that compassion and group training are also successful prevention methods. Reaching out, connecting, and seeking support from friends, family, colleagues, or therapists can be powerful tools in helping cope with stress and find encouragement.
Having someone presently listen (without judgment) to what is causing you stress can take so much weight off your shoulders, but reaching out to support is just as important as reaching out for support. It might seem counter-intuitive that helping others deal with their own stress and negative emotions connected to responsibilities and workload helps you deal with your own issues, but it’s demonstrably true in many cases—provided you maintain healthy boundaries to keep you from shouldering burdens that aren’t your own.
4. Move Your Body
Exercise is a sure-fire way to alleviate stress and improve your overall sense of wellbeing. In addition to increasing your energy and productivity levels, exercise can encourage you to set goals that will give you back a sense of purpose, drive, and control. Moving your body through regular exercise can also help take your mind off work and promote a healthier work-life balance. Find what feels good to you, whether that’s walking, yoga, pilates, dance, running, or weight-training, all these types of movement can help better manage stress.
5. Find Your Purpose
Reframing the way you perceive and participate in your job can make a profound impact. Besides earning money to support you and your family, what else excites you about your career? Does it have a deeper purpose that impacts your day-to-day? Realigning yourself with your career goals and ambitions can help mitigate work-related stress and ultimately avoid burnout.
But if your workload is bound to cause burnout, reevaluating your options and setting boundaries can help permanently alleviate some stress. If you need, discuss your options with your supervisor or work together with colleagues to better balance the workload.
It can be difficult to devote as much time and effort to caring for yourself and your own needs as you do to meeting your work responsibilities. Sometimes we are made to feel selfish or self-centered in seeking to recognize and meet our own needs. Keep in mind that taking responsibility. caring for yourself, and advocating for yourself allows you to meet your work responsibilities and show up every day as your best self!
As you move forward in your life and career, keep in mind that these tips are easy to read, but they can by tricky to apply. Be gentle with yourself and remember to focus on progress more than perfection–Don’t add to your stress by beating yourself up when you fall short–just take stock and commit to do better next time!