permission to reset
Good morning, sunshine
What if today was the day you gave yourself permission to reset?
Not because you’re broken, but because you’re ready.
Ready to let go of the extra weight you’ve been carrying.
Ready to reclaim your joy.
A reset isn’t about wiping the slate clean or pretending the past didn’t happen. It’s about starting fresh—with a little more clarity, a little more care, and a lot more intention.
Right now, life feels heavy.
The election, the endless news cycle, the constant feeling that our country is unraveling—it’s okay to admit that. It’s okay to feel that.
But here’s the thing: you can’t carry that weight all the time. It’s too much.
Your reset is an opportunity to lighten the load.
Not all at once. Not in a frantic rush. But gently. Intentionally. Like pressing pause on the chaos to remember who you are and what you need—so you can stay grounded and centered when life’s storms inevitably show up.
A reset is a gift you give yourself—a moment to pause, breathe, and realign with what truly matters. It’s about quieting the noise of the outside world so you can tune back into the sound of your own voice.
Why you might need a reset?
Maybe you’ve been running on autopilot, saying “yes” when your heart whispers “no.”
Maybe you’ve been giving away more energy than you’ve saved for yourself.
Maybe you’ve forgotten that even on the darkest days, love, connection, and peace are still within reach.
It’s easy to get out of alignment. The world moves fast, and we’re told to keep up. But here’s the truth: you don’t have to.
A reset is your chance to slow down, quiet the noise, and reclaim your peace.
Let’s start small.
1. Make a list of five feelings you want to invite into your life.
Maybe it’s joy, peace, or freedom. Maybe it’s safety, connection, or love. Choose feelings that truly resonate with you.
2. Now, list five things you’re grateful for—and connect them to those feelings. Here are a few examples:
I’m grateful for my morning walks. They make me feel free and connected to nature.
I’m grateful my living room is clean and my kitchen is freshly mopped. My home feels peaceful and calm.
I’m grateful for breakfast with my friend Val. It made me feel connected to my community.
At first, it might feel cheesy to write down these everyday things. But that’s the point.
This exercise shifts your focus away from life’s imperfections and toward the everyday joys you might be overlooking.
You’ve got so much to be grateful for. And this is just the beginning.
P.S. Focusing on your peace right now is the best way to restore your strength so we can take on Voldemort and the Death Eaters. Yeahhhh, I’m sticking with that—his actual name just raises my blood pressure.
joy is the revolution
Good morning, sunshine
When something shatters, you have two choices:
You can piece it back together,
or you can build something new from the rubble.
Our country is aching for a reset.
But real change? It’s not starting at the top.
That change will come from people like us, breaking free from worn-out patterns and hitting reset on ourselves.
Last year, I shared The Reset Workbook—a piece of my heart, my proudest work yet. It’s here to guide you, to help you reconnect with the deep-down you.
But this year, I want to give it to as many people as I can—for free. So I’m going to teach the book: through this email newsletter, on social media, and on my YouTube channel.
Because if we’re ever going to change things, it’s going to take people like you and me, lighting up the world just a bit brighter.
The news is full of stories about outrageous, terrible human beings doing awful things.
But here’s our job: to be the reason someone, somewhere, feels a little more hope.
P.S. Collectively, we create our reality. If we believe something’s impossible, it’ll stay that way.
But if we commit to radical acts of real-world kindness, we plant seeds of quiet resistance. Let’s start sowing.
joy is a form of resistance
Good morning sunshine,
I used to think the opposite of fear was love.
So I lived my life with so much love.
I gave it freely and earnestly.
I loved my neighbor.
I treated them with kindness.
But some people will always hate me—
because I’m Black,
because I’m gay,
because I have the audacity to be authentic.
The rejection, the dismissal, the consistent reminder that my love would always be met with disdain,
It was devastating.
So, I fell into outrage.
I let anger swallow me up.
I gave my energy to the pain,
trying to understand why they hate me this much.
But fear feeds on outrage.
Fear feeds on anger.
Fear feeds on pain.
So now I know the opposite of fear is joy—
because fear has no f•cking idea what to do with it.
It can’t consume it.
It can’t turn it into rage.
It can’t make it shrink and hide.
That’s why joy is a form of resistance.
PS. He’s not president yet. Log off. Reclaim your power. And step out of his cycle of fear… even if only for this weekend.
We can’t heal what we don’t face.
Good morning sunshine,
We can’t heal what we don’t face.
Grieving the loss of American ideals takes courage, but it’s a step towards change. Here’s a framework for processing this moment of collective grief.
Acknowledge the pain: Feel the heartbreak—it’s real and valid.
Mourn the distance: Grieve the gap between what you believed about the United States and what’s actually true.
Seek truth: Understand the roots of our issues— sexism, racism, homophobia, capitalism… These forces shape our world and knowing their impact brings clarity.
Be gentle with yourself: Grief weighs us down. Take time to rest, find comfort in your favorite self-care rituals, and give yourself grace.
Find connection: Lean on those who share your grief.
Hold on to hope: Seek out the progress-makers and support them and their vision.
Turn pain into purpose: Let this feeling fuel your art, your choices, and your actions.
A gentle reminder: If this is your first time facing these truths, take it in—let it change you.
But remember, for many of us, these struggles aren’t new. We can’t carry your heartbreak for you. Some of us have been holding this pain for generations.
| PS. If it all feels a bit much, you can always swap the screen for a coloring book or a sudoku puzzle. Wait, should I create an activity book for adults? |
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election day
Good morning sunshine,
Today is a hard day to choose joy.
So we grieve—we let those feelings settle.
Then, we get up again and turn pain into purpose.
We recommit to using our voices and our actions to reflect what we believe in, to live our values every day.
The darkness only exists to remind us that we have to be the light.
PS. We didn’t come this far to stay quiet. It’s time to use our gifts to create change.
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